Hello to my yuletide friends and readers! Welcome back to my daily December Christmas/mental health/holiday blog! Today I want to talk about therapy again. It's such an important topic to discuss! Today in particular I want to focus on family therapy and it's many benefits.
I'm going to segue this via the tv show Eddie and I have been watching, The Crown. I couldn't help but wonder during certain situations if they could have helped themselves by *acknowledging mental health and seeking out help. Let me explain; when the schizophrenic gentlemen broke into the queens bedroom for a chat about the state of the country, maybe this could have started a mental health revolution by acknowledging that every day people sometimes need professional help and guidance? Perhaps if the queen made this public and used it as a chance to discuss mental health publicly it could have helped. or what about the Queen character's struggle with showing physical love and affection? This could have been addressed by using family therapy. I couldn't help but think that maybe family therapy could help the royal family get along better and therefore help the future generations of the royal family to better help themselves and therefore be of more service to the public by being mentally fit and stopping toxic traits in their paths before being passed down.
This is a situation that plays itself in very real ways in real life, not just television shows:
Victimized children growing up in a dysfunctional family are innocent and have absolutely no control over their toxic life environment; they grew up with multiple emotional scarring caused by repeated trauma and pain from their parents' actions, words, and attitudes. Ultimately, they will have a different growth and nurture of their individual self. The influenced individuals will resume various parenting roles rather than enjoying their childhood, vital parts of their childhood are missing, which will eventually have a harmful effect that extends to their adult life. Victimized adults tend to attempt escaping their past pain, trauma by practicing more destructive behaviors such as increase dues of alcohol, drug abuse or forced to repeat the mistreatment that was done to them. Others had felt inner nervousness or temper and feelings without realizing the reasons behind it. They frequently reported difficulties in forming and sustaining friendly relationships, keeping a positive self-esteem, struggling in trusting others, distress in control loss, and denying their own feelings/reality. Frequently, healthy families tend to return to their normal functioning after the life/family crisis passes. Conversely, in a dysfunctional family, problems tend to be long-lasting because children do not get their previous needs; therefore the negative, pathological parental behavior tends to be dominant even in their adult's lives.
This is a very real problem and the quote above is from a scientifically researched article. It may seem very familiar to you or not. Regardless, it happens to the many of us. Healthy families are not always ideal or perfect. They may infrequently possess some of the characteristics of a dysfunctional family; but not all the time.
I want to stress that even if there aren't situations happening to you and your loved ones that seem obviously toxic or dangerous, it doesn't mean that you won't benefit from family therapy. I have mentioned in previous blog posts the very real conflicts that are occurring between friends and family due to the difference of opinions on the current pandemic and politics of 2020. Maybe you feel you could "never forgive" a loved one for keeping their covid diagnoses a secret and therefore putting your health at risk (it happens! I've heard stories from acquaintances but here's another instance where someone kept a covid diagnoses a secret). Another all too common example is someone distancing themselves from friends or family do to the fact that they won't stop talking about their opposing views of politics and seem to want to persuade everyone to change their views. Despite our best intentions, sometimes we do things that seem wrong to others and that's when we can step out of the situation and seek help from a professional.
What is something that you wish you could have talked out through therapy instead of bottling it inside and therefore ruining a relationship? If you are hoping to make amends with loved ones that you've had a falling out with or maybe want to stop the process in it's tracks. please refer to yesterday's post about how to find a therapist.
Before I got married, I told Eddie that I could not be married to someone who doesn't believe in therapy and wouldn't be willing to seek to counseling if the marriage started to have troubles. It's better to realize that there is always help if you ask for it and keep that in mind instead of wallowing in distress when relationships start to sour. There's always a way out and that usually helps by seeking guidance! It's never too late to help yourself or help your family. Please share this blog post so that anyone stuck in a rut can realize that they have a place to go and way to find help.
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*PS As I continue to watch The Crown, I am now seeing the episode where they find out that there are members of the family in a mental institution! How crazy is that!? Did I just see the future? lol am I psychic?! I wrote this blog yesterday afternoon and last night we saw the episodes where suddenly princess margo and lady Di were in therapy. Go figure!
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